Your message
Ready when you are
Pick a situation on the left and your message will appear here, updating as you type. Then copy it into any text, chat, or email — and actually send it.
What makes a check-in land
Three things: it leads with them rather than you, it carries no obligation to reply, and it actually gets sent. A slightly awkward message that arrives beats a perfect one that never leaves your drafts. Sending it is the good thing — the wording is just the vehicle.
If they share something heavy
You don't need to fix it. "That sounds really hard — I'm here" is often worth more than advice. Thank them for telling you, listen more than you talk, and check in again in a few days. If you're worried about someone's safety, contact local emergency services or a crisis line in their area.